“It’s not working. I’ve tried a million times. I already restarted it, but it is still not working.’” I told my husband. He didn’t say a thing. I must activate the international roaming package because we want to go abroad. However, my phone provider application did not cooperate with me. It’s always showing an error. I’m just curious because my husband did not face the same problem even though we have the same provider. He succeeded in activating it. I continue trying it, but it is still not working. Desperately, I told my husband again. And he said this to me, “If you facing difficulty, you remain silent; try to figure it out by yourself. Use your smart brain to solve it. Don’t say it to others, as you find validation in others to agree with you if it’s difficult. It will cause you a mental block. And in the end, you stop trying.” For your information, my husband is a great provider and the biggest supporter of our family. However, he has his own ways to teach us something. Maybe sometimes people find it a little odd, but most of the time, it turns out he is right.
Indeed, when he said that to me, I felt a tickle of annoyance. Seriously, what was that all about? Does he think I’m some sort of emotional robot that doesn’t require a little sympathy? I mean, I don’t need his help; I just wanted to share my feelings like we’re in a reality show about empathy! But, hey, I suppose that’s just how a man’s brain operates, solve first, feelings later! Sigh. But then, I ponder over it like a philosopher at a coffee shop. Maybe he’s onto something. So, I dive into the digital abyss, searching for that elusive activation button like a treasure hunter. Lo and behold, triumph at last! I hate to say it, but I must concede—he’s right again! Another sigh.
At the end of the day, I guess I owe him a little salute, even though it makes me cringe a little bit. He basically threw me the keys to my brain and said, “Alright, Sherlock, go solve the mystery!” – The mystery of missing socks. As it turns out, it was easy, but my brain stopped functioning before. He was right; I only needed a “little” push.
After experiencing it, I find myself immersed in deep reflection. Indeed, choosing silence in the face of adversity can be a profound decision. Silence holds immense power, especially when confronted with challenges. Why is this? Because silence guards our energy. Over-sharing our struggles can leave us emotionally drained, or mental blocks, as my husband wisely pointed out. I can’t help but ponder this: when we embrace silence, we create space for clarity. It enables us to process our emotions and think rationally before taking action. This deliberate pause ultimately leads us to the most impactful choices and decisions. As I contemplate this path further, I realize that remaining silent demonstrates not just self-control, but also remarkable resilience. Yes, my husband urged me to embrace the quiet, and after much perseverance, I finally found success. You know what? Complaining and whining just keep us stuck in a victim mindset instead of making us strong fighters. Let’s ditch the sympathy thing and get our heads in the game. It’s time to focus on solutions and skip the pity party!
Silence during challenging moments isn’t a sign of weakness; instead, it signifies deep understanding and insight. It’s completely natural to want to share our thoughts when the moment feels appropriate. However, remember that embracing silence can be an invaluable companion. It fosters our inner strength, helps us gain clarity, and protects our emotional well-being. It’s like that friend who reminds us to take a breath during the chaos, helps us see the light, and keeps our sanity intact. Because who doesn’t want to emerge stronger and perhaps slightly more zen?
Love,
Kirana
