For some of you, maybe don’t believe this kind of thing, but for some, it’s quite fun. What is it? Zodiac or Astrology. Of course as a Gen “Xennials” (between X and Millennial, maybe you can guess my age) I’m into fun team. Yeay! My element sign is an air, which are known for their intellectual, communication and sociability. I want to put aside the intellectual trait, it’s not my place to judge. Let’s talk about the other traits, which is communication and sociability, we are known as a natural talkers, excellent at expressing our thoughts and connecting with people. We are so thriving into social settings and very much enjoy engaging discussions. Is it true? I don’t know about the others, as for me, it’s 100% true. So, when it comes to conversations, I’m very much enjoyed it. But, until I realize, too much talking will kill you! It kills our social, emotional, also my personal growth. How come?
You know, too much talking is dangerous when it comes to social life. It will bring damage to relationship, because overtalking can lead to conflicts, misunderstanding and in the end will hurt others feeling. Also, constantly dominating conversations can drive our friends away, people may avoid us due our tendency to overtalk. Can you imagine this one friend who always talking about her/him self. Or maybe always interrupt someone’s talking and can’t stop talking. Annoying, right? We just want to get away from that kind of friend. Imagine if it happens in the professional field, maybe it can lead us into the career stagnation, as it maybe perceived as unprofessional or lacking listening skills. By talking too much will lead us to missed opportunities, as others may not have a chance to contribute or share ideas to us. Poor communication because we are overtalking also can leads us to misunderstanding, errors and missed the deadlines.
Not to mention it, when it comes to our emotional and mental health, overtalking can be dangerous too. Why is it? Because we are talking a lot, we are worried about being judged or evaluated, and in the end it will lead us to anxiety and stress. Sometimes we’re like saying it without thinking, and when it happened we regret it, actually it just slipped out of our mouth. It happens so many times, after I say something, I feel regret saying it, because we’re like blurting out our thoughts without considering it first. And you can guess what happens next, right? This can cause misunderstanding, offend our discussion partner, and this is the most scariest, reveal our personal things unintentionally. “God, why am I saying it? Nooo, it’s supposed to be a secret!”
There was so much long time ago, as a natural talkers who loves talking, after I talk to my friends constantly, I feel some kind of emotionally draining feeling, it’s like I burn out and exhausted. It’s killing me inside. Moreover if all of our conversation partner is natural talkers, chaos is in the house, yo! It was impossible to get a conversation going, because everyone is talking too much and don’t want to give others a chance to talk. Exhausting. And then, I came to think, what’s the points of our conversation? In fact, there’s nothing essential on it. Why? Because when we talk too much, we often don’t give time to pause and reflect on what we’re saying. It prevent ourselves from reflecting on our thoughts, feelings and action.Wise man says : Think before you act, think twice before you speaks!
So, now you know the dangerous of overtalking. In the end it will lead us to hold our personal growth, as we may not be taking the time to reflect on your experiences and learn from others. And it can make us unaware of how our words affect others. We can say it, a lack of self-awareness. We are forget to actively listening, because the truth is listening is a key. Why is it? By listening, we can learning from others, and it make us can get a nice opportunity. And this is the most important things, when it comes to our inner beauty, overtalking can drown out our intuition, making it harder to listen our inner voice and make decisions that align with our values and goals. So, please ask to ourselves, to keep silent a little bit (or much). Because silent is super power (Yes, I want to write about it in the next posts). Stay with me, dear friends!
Love,
Kirana Sidin
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