Once, Seneca the Philosopher said to his friend, Lucillus, in his letter : “We are more suffer in imagination than in reality”.
Wait, what you mean by that Old Man? Off the record, I always loves how the ancient peoples say something, it sounds so poetic and calm, but in the same time, sophisticated. Back to what Seneca said before, Can I say like this : The idea is, how most of our fears and worries are self-created in our imagination rather than based on actual events. We are worry so much about how bad things will be that we actually torture ourselves more than the thing we are worried about ever could. Am I correct, Seneca? If I want to break it down again, it could be like this : First thing first, when we facing a problem, our minds exaggerate it. We often imagine worst-case scenarios that won’t happens. Second, Fear is often worse than a reality. The stress of worrying usually bigger than the event itself. And the last one, Stressing over what might happen only makes things even worse. Instead of living in the moment, we torture ourselves with “what-ifs.” Silly, isn’t it? Just say, we have to deliver important speech tomorrow, and then our minds starts overthinking “what if I forget what to say? what if people laugh at me? what if nobody understand to what I say? and so on. And then, we feel anxious all night, we barely able to sleep, we stressed out. But turns out, when we deliver it, actually everything’s just fine. We can deliver our speech well. That’s what I mean, Seneca The Old Man said!
In this complex world, when it times to face something unpleasant, we tend to overreact. But here’s the truth, there’s nothing new in this world, especially something correlating with the human emotions, such as broken heart, jealousy, sad, mourn, betrayal, etc. It was already happening since thousand years ago and will still going on. It’s not like we are the first one who has an honor to experience it and that’s why, is it necessary to give exaggerate responses to all these things? Surely not. And if we want to try to see it from the different perspectives, let’s say, view from above, imagine we see the world and all of the comes with it from the highest height. Have you found yourself? That tiny little human there among this world? Yes, correct. Now we already know that we only a dot in this world and so does our problems compares with the world and all of the comes with it. Our problems, the drama that we are facing now is not that special, it’s nothing but a dust in the grand history of mankind. And in the end, all of our problems and drama will be forget and forgotten, even by ourselves. So, is it needed for us to overreact or overthinking on a unpleasant event? In 10, 20, 30 or maybe 50 years again we will found all of it was nothing.
In the other word, we have to love of fate. Love our fate, what is happens right now and what is already happened. Accepting life as it is and not letting emotions or excessive thoughts control us. Don’t expecting things to go exactly as we wish, expect life as it. Embrace everything, good or bad as part of our journey. If we love fate, we won’t see problems as “unfair”, we’ll see them as “meant to be”, so there’s no need to overreact and overthinking, by then our journey of life will be going well. As if there to remind us, everythings happens as it should, So why have to stress over it? Just let is slide! Stand our ground!
Wise man say : Love our fate, which is in fact your life.
Love,
Kirana
